Women Empowerment

I was tagged by the delicious Ruth from Ruth In Revolt to take part in the Women Empowerment tag. I love a bit of empowerment on a Tuesday morning, and I am thrilled Ruth tagged me in this. Also - easy content anyone?

The Rules

Create a Women Empowerment Tag post on your blog and answer these five questions.

  1. What does women empowerment mean to you?

  2. What woman/women do you most admire? Why?

  3. Share with us a story, drawing, or video that you think says “empowered women.”

  4. Share with us the best lesson you’ve learned in leadership.

  5. What cause do you most want to bring awareness to? Why?/What does it mean to you?

Then tag 5 inspirational, powerful women to do the same.

Link your post to https://mylifelines.co/women-wednesday-women-empowerment-tag

Tag us on Twitter (@my_lifelines) and/or Instagram (@mylifelines_) with #WomenWednesday.

  • What does women empowerment mean to you?

It’s a tricksy one. For me, it means all women - our trans sisters included - having the freedom to be who they are and do what they want to do without fear or being held back by society. For us all to be able to speak our minds and be treated with respect, and just be able to live. Whether your ambition is to be a stay at home mum or to be a CEO of your own company, women empowerment means that you have the freedom to make your choice and make your life your own without people trying to tell you different.

  • What woman/women do you most admire? Why?

Caitlin Moran is my number one woman from now until the end of time. She writes the way I want to write - funny, but touching on the serious topics without any fear. She grabs life by the bollocks and lives it on her terms, and she’s just bloody great. Also Caroline Hirons - she’s forged a career for herself in the beauty industry but never lost sight of what’s important and never let anyone force her into any boxes.

And of course, my sainted mother who has put up with me for 22 years on this earth and is still the most incredible woman I have ever met and will ever met. From being a single 24 year old in London with a tiny baby (me), to giving me the best life possible growing up, to still being my biggest supporter and cheerleader now even as she sets up her own holistic therapy business - she’s just the bee knees. The dogs bollocks. The last piece of chocolate cake . Jam and crumpets on a rainy day after a long walk.

  • Share with us a story, drawing, or video that you think says ‘empowered women.’

This might not be the right thing but - going back to Caitlin Moran (honestly anything she’s ever written says empowered women to me) - when I first read this list of things I wept. It spoke to me on a level that I was not prepared for. Anyway. Caitlin Moran’s ‘advice for 2014’ (yeah, it’s old). This is all the advice you will ever need to live your life.

“Women, I’ve had a billion gins, so I’m going to give you all the advice you need for 2014:

1) Only hang out with people who make you feel comfortable and happy.

2) Get a bra you can dance in. I highly recommend the Marie-jo from Rigby & Peller. Spendy, but a life-time sex-dance investment.

3) Find what you would do for free, and try and find a way to get paid for it as your job. Everything good in the world comes from love.

4) Drink shit-tons of gin and listen to Daft Punk, Lorde, MIA, Kanye West and prime Bowie. All your revolutionary needs will be met.

5) Read as many books as you can - every book you read means you absorb another life. It’s the most pleasurable power-up ever.

6) You don’t need mascara if you’re wearing eye-liner. Spend your spare fiver on tights.

7) Never complain, never explain. No-one is paying you for either. Shine on you crazy diamond. Carry on your mission.

8) Ghostbusters is the greatest film ever because the main protagonists never fall out with each other. There is a lesson here.

9) Hair looks its best two days after washing, pumped with dry shampoo, and back-combed. YOU DON’T NEED A HAIRDRESSER.

10) A wobbly belly is the sexy birthright of all women.

12) (is it 12? I’m pissed) Always presume everyone you are dealing with has recently received bad news. Be gentle & forgiving.

13) There has never been a party better than eating a baked potato on the sofa watching “Cheers.”

14) The best eye-liner is Rimmel.

15) The best deodorant is 24-Hour Sure. Spray-ons don’t work. If you’re very sweaty, buy under-arm pads.

19) (literally lost count) full a pot with sunflower oil, salt & essential oil for the world’s cheapest shower exfoliant/moisturiser.

20) Become sweatily exhilarant at least three times a week - dancing, swimming, listening to music, walking. Exercise your body like a dog.

21) Feel fat? a) FUCK THE PATRIARCHY b) princess-line. This is the dress-shape that makes everything better.

53) When in doubt, listen to “Heroes” by David Bowie. You will always know what to do afterwards.

23) All concepts of Hell are simply the idea of you suffering for being unkind.

24) Sailors fighting in the dance-hall. Oh man, look at those cave-men go.

473) “And in the end, the love you make, is equal to the love you take.”

1974) If you don’t feel “normal”, your mission is to make your abnormal “normal”. I refer you, again, to David Bowie.

183636) Similarly, freaks, when people say, “That is not what we do,” you reply, “That is not what we do - YET.”

And then you smoke a cigarette whilst “Let’s Dance” plays.

bong) give me your hands, because you’re wonderful

48373) tights, boots, shorts, t-shirt, revolution.

HOT TRAMP I LOVE YOU SO. Mum says I have to get off the internet now.

*expansive arm gesture* PEOPLE ON STREETS *is put into bed*

“I want to do great things, as men do.”

— Caitlin Moran welcomes 2014”

  • Share with us the best lesson you’ve learned in leadership

When I worked at Starbucks, I was made a supervisor the moment I turned 18. I quickly had to learn, without any experience in managing people at all, the best way to make the people on my shift listen to me, do what I asked, and all while being a solid five years or more younger than the majority of them. It wasn’t easy, and there were definitely some rough patches - but the best thing(s) I ever learned during this time was that kindness worked better than shouting to get people on my side and willing to do what I want, and that if I showed I was willing to get stuck in and do the dirty work as much as my team did - and I wasn’t just leaving it all for them to do - everyone did a much better job and without much complaining. Being a leader in that situation, and I think it applies to many others, was more about treating people with respect, being as much of a team player as everyone else, and being approachable and kind so that people would open up and talk to me - rather than talk behind my back.

  • What cause do you most want to bring awareness to? Why? What does it mean to you?

I wouldn’t be Cordelia Moor, mental health blogger and part time reviewer of drag shows, if I didn’t bring awareness to a mental health cause. Have I lost the ability to type? Quite possibly. Anyway. I want to bring awareness to a little thing called the Childline online chat, because I genuinely wouldn’t have made it through my teenage years if I hadn’t been able to log on and chat to someone over the internet about everything that was going on in my life. They saved me on more than one occasion (once quite literally by sending an ambulance to my house), and were always there to offer impartial advice when I couldn’t pick up the phone and speak out loud.

I wish I could still use them but alas - I’m not a teenager or child anymore. But if you know any teenagers or children, or you are one yourself, I highly recommend using their services. It’s all on your terms, you can talk about whatever you want and end the chat whenever you want. And if you’re scared that someone will look in your internet history and find out what you’re doing, don’t worry. The Childline website shows up as something completely different.





And if you see this, and want to join in - do it! It’s fun, and we should all spend more time talking about this kind of stuff.

Love, Cordelia